I'm eternally graetful to have been given the lessons in Empathy, Respect for life, Understanding and Compassion that life has gifted me with so far.
My gratefulness has been brought to mind, from some disturbing developments in our local education arena. A young autistic boy kicked out of school, public support to get the "special needs kids out" has made me cringe. I had to collect the articles and make some comments. I posted it on my autism blog, but wanted to share here, because it's relevant to all of my life. Obviously, my lessons from Autism are the biggest in my life, have shaped me, blessed me with so much growth!
Please hop over to that blog and read and comment, love to hear your input.
http://autismsdailylessons.blogspot.com/2011/04/special-needs-kids-have-bc-government.html
Sunday, April 17, 2011
Sunday, January 30, 2011
Keeping my tank full so I can take on the world!
i so love you. Every time I know I'm going to talk to you, be with you, email you, see your face,(even on just FB) I feel love. Mom and I have been discussing meaning of life etc ( you know everyday conversations..lol) and the meaning of life, is most likely to raise the love/healing/love energy/awareness.. it increases all good things.. when I am with you and with mom, and both of our two boys.. I feel like a superhero. Like I can do anything, tackle anything, be anything.. with these amazing people, (who love me so I must be great, capable) behind and beside me, I am the most empowered, I feel so full of life, and energy, (and I can know what this is, because i've felt the other side. sucked dry of energy, sad/depressed etc at many other times in my life) this is the get up and go of progress and shared enlightement.. this is the awakeness that transforms and helps people grow and open to new ideas. I feel creative, imaginative, empowered, aware.. in your prescence.. and from you it spreads. Bless you so much for that.
The above, grammatically problematic paragraph, was originally a quick email to a dear person. I saw a pic of her ( a relative I truly love) on FB, and having been with her earlier, I felt the need to tell her what I was feeling.
When I finished typing, I realized all it said to me. (My truth as I see it)
We're here for however long ~ be it 1x, 2x, or infinity, depending on your belief- Excluding Einstein, maybe Newtown?, Nobel? and a handful of others, we are not going to be remembered long term on this planet.
In this lifetime, now, we have the opportunity to be a positive or negative force. We can leave behind positive energy, or negative energy. I believe we can increase the positive energy around us every day, and by doing so, we are healing. We are healing ourselves, we are healing all we come in contact with, we are healing the planet. In the long term, this energy collects, it grows, it influences on many levels. This is what we leave behind, what we CAN leave behind. Our legacy,shared with everyone.. positive energy/ Love energy/respect for all/CHI/etc.. We feel it every day, call it what you will. Positive Energy. We CAN leave that behind.
As I wrote above, when I am with someone who is curious, bright, energetic, positive, kind, loving, open to ideas and new concepts and thoughts, it is empowering. We have all felt that. You feel alive with alive people, and of course the opposite is true, negative people bring us down. We physically and mentally lose energy, our personal power seeps away around negativity.
I remembered today that we will always face, meet, have to spend time with those who are negative thinkers, who bring you down instead of boost you up. But we can make sure that we spend enough time with those who empower us, fill us up, energize us, forward thinkers who get us... being around them, so when we are faced with days where the "world" creeps in, we have armour. A full tank of gas, so even if it's a long day/ a long road.. you'll make it through.
I submit, that if we all kept our tanks full, there could be great change. If we stopped waiting til we were empty to take a walk with a friend, talk with your mom/son/cousin, if we remembered how important it is to be the best we can be and nurtured ourselves so we had the healing/loving/positive energy to give away to the world. I wonder what would happen. I'm going to try. I'll keep you posted.
The above, grammatically problematic paragraph, was originally a quick email to a dear person. I saw a pic of her ( a relative I truly love) on FB, and having been with her earlier, I felt the need to tell her what I was feeling.
When I finished typing, I realized all it said to me. (My truth as I see it)
We're here for however long ~ be it 1x, 2x, or infinity, depending on your belief- Excluding Einstein, maybe Newtown?, Nobel? and a handful of others, we are not going to be remembered long term on this planet.
In this lifetime, now, we have the opportunity to be a positive or negative force. We can leave behind positive energy, or negative energy. I believe we can increase the positive energy around us every day, and by doing so, we are healing. We are healing ourselves, we are healing all we come in contact with, we are healing the planet. In the long term, this energy collects, it grows, it influences on many levels. This is what we leave behind, what we CAN leave behind. Our legacy,shared with everyone.. positive energy/ Love energy/respect for all/CHI/etc.. We feel it every day, call it what you will. Positive Energy. We CAN leave that behind.
As I wrote above, when I am with someone who is curious, bright, energetic, positive, kind, loving, open to ideas and new concepts and thoughts, it is empowering. We have all felt that. You feel alive with alive people, and of course the opposite is true, negative people bring us down. We physically and mentally lose energy, our personal power seeps away around negativity.
I remembered today that we will always face, meet, have to spend time with those who are negative thinkers, who bring you down instead of boost you up. But we can make sure that we spend enough time with those who empower us, fill us up, energize us, forward thinkers who get us... being around them, so when we are faced with days where the "world" creeps in, we have armour. A full tank of gas, so even if it's a long day/ a long road.. you'll make it through.
I submit, that if we all kept our tanks full, there could be great change. If we stopped waiting til we were empty to take a walk with a friend, talk with your mom/son/cousin, if we remembered how important it is to be the best we can be and nurtured ourselves so we had the healing/loving/positive energy to give away to the world. I wonder what would happen. I'm going to try. I'll keep you posted.
A Karma Experience
I passed 4 styrofoam cups and a platter.
I felt ENGRAGED! I usually feel mad, upset, distraught, disgusted, occassionaly leaning into anger, but for some reason on this particular walk, I felt ENRAGED!
"OMG" I Harumphed loudly, alone on the street.
"Who/What/Why/Jesus!" My brain tripped overitself trying to yell and process my anger all at the same time.
"They will Suffer!" I (kinda) yelled onto my empty street and the invisible, evil litterers who'd been here. And I meant it. Seriously. For about 30 seconds.
Then it hit me. Hard. This is my suffering! This is my Karmic Experience, for I used to litter long ago! I dropped styrofoam (butts, paper, plastic etc) on a few streets in my early days, and this is my suffering.
To be so hurt by the litter I see, is suffering, and I acknowledge that I deserve karmic action for what I did not know then.
Will their suffering be the same? Will they suffer at all? ( I do think so) Is my slate clean now? (My mom noted that she thinks I'm now evened out on this particular issue, wouldn't that be nice!)
I will take away a few lessons from this, expand on what I felt/know;
We are all ignorant until we know. I don't need to judge people for what I see as their faults, we're all on a path, we all learn in our own time, in our own order. As a positive force I can teach more, show more, educate more when I'm in tune with karma and the laws of the universe, not trying to be the sheriff!
The world is FAIR - yin/yang - Karma will always get you eventually, so just do good! Okay, so that one I know.. but still.. Just do good!
I felt ENGRAGED! I usually feel mad, upset, distraught, disgusted, occassionaly leaning into anger, but for some reason on this particular walk, I felt ENRAGED!
"OMG" I Harumphed loudly, alone on the street.
"Who/What/Why/Jesus!" My brain tripped overitself trying to yell and process my anger all at the same time.
"They will Suffer!" I (kinda) yelled onto my empty street and the invisible, evil litterers who'd been here. And I meant it. Seriously. For about 30 seconds.
Then it hit me. Hard. This is my suffering! This is my Karmic Experience, for I used to litter long ago! I dropped styrofoam (butts, paper, plastic etc) on a few streets in my early days, and this is my suffering.
To be so hurt by the litter I see, is suffering, and I acknowledge that I deserve karmic action for what I did not know then.
Will their suffering be the same? Will they suffer at all? ( I do think so) Is my slate clean now? (My mom noted that she thinks I'm now evened out on this particular issue, wouldn't that be nice!)
I will take away a few lessons from this, expand on what I felt/know;
We are all ignorant until we know. I don't need to judge people for what I see as their faults, we're all on a path, we all learn in our own time, in our own order. As a positive force I can teach more, show more, educate more when I'm in tune with karma and the laws of the universe, not trying to be the sheriff!
The world is FAIR - yin/yang - Karma will always get you eventually, so just do good! Okay, so that one I know.. but still.. Just do good!
Sunday, October 10, 2010
Being Grateful
*yes.. we are aware the word grateful is here 1 zillion times. We like life that way*
It's Thanksgiving weekend. I have no problem recalling all I am grateful for. There is so much.
I give thanks every day for the blessed life I have. EVERY day, I remind myself how blessed I am to have MY life.
I'm grateful to be alive. I'm grateful that I have free will. I'm grateful to live in a country where I'm able to use my free will and make my own choices, whatever they may be. With these things, I'm good to go. Thank you.
I'm grateful for everyone I've crossed paths with, they contributed to who I am today. Thank you.
I'm grateful for every mistake I've ever made, each experience helped me learn right/wrong, good/bad, also helping me be who I am today. Thank you.
I'm grateful for the copious amounts of SHIT other people brought to my life, somehow it was meant to make me grow, and often it did. Thank you.
I'm grateful for the challenges, all the things in life that made me buck up and face new things, they all helped me be stronger and stretch boundaries. Thank you.
I'm particularly grateful for the challenge of Autism. My son has brought intense joy, astronomical growth and richer, deeper love in so many of us. Thank you.
I'm grateful that I have a curious mind, and I'm able to access information and resources in many ways in my free country. I'm able to learn anything I wish, as much as I wish. Thank you.
I'm grateful for all of that big stuff, growing/learning stuff, and I'm so grateful for the daily joys, laughs, hugs and experiences I have on a day to day basis in this awesome world. Thank you.
I'm grateful for the people I can talk to. The people who make me laugh. My son! My Mom! My family. My girls. And all people in my family and circles that I've cultivated strong awesome relationships with. I'm grateful for all the people who inspire me, the people who teach me, The people who fight for the planet and the people who pioneer and light the way for positive growth! Thank you all.
I'm grateful for Gardening, soil, seeds, Vegetables, Fruit, Ethical/Sustainable food of all kinds,and BEING ABLE TO ACCESS THEM! Cooking, and the ability to learn to cook all the wonderful bounty I bring home!! MMMMMMM. Thank you.
I'm grateful that I live free in Canada, in Beautiful BC's most amazing city - Vancouver! I'm so grateful I can spend most of my days with my amazing son, travelling our city, learning, seeing, wondering together. Thank you.
I'm grateful for the Internet and Social Media. It's made it possible for us to connnect and share and learn and communicate like never before! Thank you.
I'm grateful that I've begun writing again and that a few people choose to read it. Thank you.
I'm grateful for the laws of karma and doing good! I'm grateful I deserved to, and managed to, bring a business home and work here and support my family for 10 years! Thank you.
I'm grateful for Music! Dark chocolate, Wii, Brett Dennen, Anne Rice, Al Gore, GreenPeace, Marc Emery,My TrackBall Mouse, Gluten Free Phil, Black Forest Bacon, Cast Iron,Heritage Meats, Cathedral World, Aquarium, Protesting, Vinegar & baking soda, digital cameras, Goats, Bokashi Bucket, Computers, Water Filters, Fridge, washer & dryer, public transit, organic food at Costco, My juicer, internet TV, Micheal Moore, chlorine free recycled kleenex,Bamboo utensils, Terracycle, Independent organic farmers, Dark (ethical) coffee with stevia and Almond breeze in the morning, my thesaurus, Scrabble, Sequence, Sun Yun Set Gardens, Lantern Festivals, Inukshuks, Waterfalls, Sunny Days, 4:20, Alaskan King Crab, Farmville (YES Farmville!)Value Village, Oprah, Survivor, Democracy, Playland, Dancing in the Kitchen.. and lots, lots more. Thank you.
Today I woke up thankful to be in the middle of a long weekend. My son, who is the best son in the universe.. is with his father for this long weekend, and I'm grateful to know they will have fun. I won't miss him "too much".
I'm grateful I'm able to have some free time. I'm very aware there are many who do not have a minute to themselves. I played on FB, I sang and danced with Brett Dennen and I prepped in the kitchen. I'm so very grateful that I'm able to have hours to do that. Later, I walked to Deer Lake, a large city lake, 5 min away. I am so thankful, I can go there whenver I want, and that today I did choose to go over by myself. I was able to take my time and sit on whatever bench I wanted, stop and take pictures of anything I wanted, for as long as I wanted.
It is so easy to be grateful when your sitting in a park. It is so easy to find beauty in the world, we just have to look for it. "Look,there it is."
The more I am grateful, the more I find to be grateful for. I am blessed. And If I choose to look at it that way, that's how it is and will be.
There is stuff in life that isn't always pretty/great/fun. I live through days that suck, we all do. We all have shit filled days sometimes, but they are just moments, and they pass. Especially if we are grateful, each day for each thing.
Try it. Be grateful more than one weekend a year, and see what happens.
Thank you.
It's Thanksgiving weekend. I have no problem recalling all I am grateful for. There is so much.
I give thanks every day for the blessed life I have. EVERY day, I remind myself how blessed I am to have MY life.
I'm grateful to be alive. I'm grateful that I have free will. I'm grateful to live in a country where I'm able to use my free will and make my own choices, whatever they may be. With these things, I'm good to go. Thank you.
I'm grateful for everyone I've crossed paths with, they contributed to who I am today. Thank you.
I'm grateful for every mistake I've ever made, each experience helped me learn right/wrong, good/bad, also helping me be who I am today. Thank you.
I'm grateful for the copious amounts of SHIT other people brought to my life, somehow it was meant to make me grow, and often it did. Thank you.
I'm grateful for the challenges, all the things in life that made me buck up and face new things, they all helped me be stronger and stretch boundaries. Thank you.
I'm particularly grateful for the challenge of Autism. My son has brought intense joy, astronomical growth and richer, deeper love in so many of us. Thank you.
I'm grateful that I have a curious mind, and I'm able to access information and resources in many ways in my free country. I'm able to learn anything I wish, as much as I wish. Thank you.
I'm grateful for all of that big stuff, growing/learning stuff, and I'm so grateful for the daily joys, laughs, hugs and experiences I have on a day to day basis in this awesome world. Thank you.
I'm grateful for the people I can talk to. The people who make me laugh. My son! My Mom! My family. My girls. And all people in my family and circles that I've cultivated strong awesome relationships with. I'm grateful for all the people who inspire me, the people who teach me, The people who fight for the planet and the people who pioneer and light the way for positive growth! Thank you all.
I'm grateful for Gardening, soil, seeds, Vegetables, Fruit, Ethical/Sustainable food of all kinds,and BEING ABLE TO ACCESS THEM! Cooking, and the ability to learn to cook all the wonderful bounty I bring home!! MMMMMMM. Thank you.
I'm grateful that I live free in Canada, in Beautiful BC's most amazing city - Vancouver! I'm so grateful I can spend most of my days with my amazing son, travelling our city, learning, seeing, wondering together. Thank you.
I'm grateful for the Internet and Social Media. It's made it possible for us to connnect and share and learn and communicate like never before! Thank you.
I'm grateful that I've begun writing again and that a few people choose to read it. Thank you.
I'm grateful for the laws of karma and doing good! I'm grateful I deserved to, and managed to, bring a business home and work here and support my family for 10 years! Thank you.
I'm grateful for Music! Dark chocolate, Wii, Brett Dennen, Anne Rice, Al Gore, GreenPeace, Marc Emery,My TrackBall Mouse, Gluten Free Phil, Black Forest Bacon, Cast Iron,Heritage Meats, Cathedral World, Aquarium, Protesting, Vinegar & baking soda, digital cameras, Goats, Bokashi Bucket, Computers, Water Filters, Fridge, washer & dryer, public transit, organic food at Costco, My juicer, internet TV, Micheal Moore, chlorine free recycled kleenex,Bamboo utensils, Terracycle, Independent organic farmers, Dark (ethical) coffee with stevia and Almond breeze in the morning, my thesaurus, Scrabble, Sequence, Sun Yun Set Gardens, Lantern Festivals, Inukshuks, Waterfalls, Sunny Days, 4:20, Alaskan King Crab, Farmville (YES Farmville!)Value Village, Oprah, Survivor, Democracy, Playland, Dancing in the Kitchen.. and lots, lots more. Thank you.
Today I woke up thankful to be in the middle of a long weekend. My son, who is the best son in the universe.. is with his father for this long weekend, and I'm grateful to know they will have fun. I won't miss him "too much".
I'm grateful I'm able to have some free time. I'm very aware there are many who do not have a minute to themselves. I played on FB, I sang and danced with Brett Dennen and I prepped in the kitchen. I'm so very grateful that I'm able to have hours to do that. Later, I walked to Deer Lake, a large city lake, 5 min away. I am so thankful, I can go there whenver I want, and that today I did choose to go over by myself. I was able to take my time and sit on whatever bench I wanted, stop and take pictures of anything I wanted, for as long as I wanted.
It is so easy to be grateful when your sitting in a park. It is so easy to find beauty in the world, we just have to look for it. "Look,there it is."
The more I am grateful, the more I find to be grateful for. I am blessed. And If I choose to look at it that way, that's how it is and will be.
There is stuff in life that isn't always pretty/great/fun. I live through days that suck, we all do. We all have shit filled days sometimes, but they are just moments, and they pass. Especially if we are grateful, each day for each thing.
Try it. Be grateful more than one weekend a year, and see what happens.
Thank you.
Friday, October 8, 2010
It's simple - Is it a sad day or a happy day?
If you argue with the above statement, I probably won't convince you otherwise.
But, it is simple.
Every person wakes up in the morning. Every person puts their feet to the floor and begins the day.
There are people in the world sorting thru dumps all day with smiles on their faces, and there are executives waking up in mansions ready to go to Maui, that hate their lives.
I don't know that all happy people, conciously ask each morning, but I know that it is their decision. Today, I choose to be positive/happy. Today, I choose to see the bright side of life, I choose to "win some or learn some" (love that line from Jason Mraz " I'm yours") Today I choose to realize that not all moments will be joy filled, but they will all be authentic, they will all be moments I can learn from. I will have experiences today, good and not so good, that will help me become who I want to be, moments that challenge me, push me, help me see how far I've grown.
Others, you've met them I'm sure, choose to lament their life all day. "Poor me, poor me, why me, why now"
Our North American culture, promotes the idea that happiness is a given. We should all be happy all the time, it's possible to be happy all the time, don't you know? Buy more, do more, shop more, talk more, watch more and you'll be happy. If your not, perhaps something is wrong with you? You must need a better job, more money so you can buy more.. that will make you happy!
Who told us that happiness is a right? Who told us if your not smiling 24/7 something is wrong with you? Who made us beleive that we are better, if we're happy, that we don't belong, if we're not "happy" all the time?
I am at my personal best, when I remind myself of the phrase " 10,000 joys and 10,000 sorrows" Life is 10,000 joys and 10,000 sorrows. there will be both. That's it. There will be and there is nothing you can do about it. Realizing it's so, means that when the sorrows come, you see them for what they are, lessons. Important lessons to teach you to become who you're meant to.
Sorrows are necessary, to show us what the joys are. To help us experience the joys, we need the sorrows. When we see "sorrows" as lessons, they then become joys! "Thank you universe for this lesson, so I can be a better me!"
I challenge you to remember that in your day. Wake up and decide what kind of day you will have, and if it's a day with some "sorrows" see them for what they are, lessons to amplify your joys!
10,000 joys, 10,000 sorrows. Repeat when necessary.
But, it is simple.
Every person wakes up in the morning. Every person puts their feet to the floor and begins the day.
There are people in the world sorting thru dumps all day with smiles on their faces, and there are executives waking up in mansions ready to go to Maui, that hate their lives.
I don't know that all happy people, conciously ask each morning, but I know that it is their decision. Today, I choose to be positive/happy. Today, I choose to see the bright side of life, I choose to "win some or learn some" (love that line from Jason Mraz " I'm yours") Today I choose to realize that not all moments will be joy filled, but they will all be authentic, they will all be moments I can learn from. I will have experiences today, good and not so good, that will help me become who I want to be, moments that challenge me, push me, help me see how far I've grown.
Others, you've met them I'm sure, choose to lament their life all day. "Poor me, poor me, why me, why now"
Our North American culture, promotes the idea that happiness is a given. We should all be happy all the time, it's possible to be happy all the time, don't you know? Buy more, do more, shop more, talk more, watch more and you'll be happy. If your not, perhaps something is wrong with you? You must need a better job, more money so you can buy more.. that will make you happy!
Who told us that happiness is a right? Who told us if your not smiling 24/7 something is wrong with you? Who made us beleive that we are better, if we're happy, that we don't belong, if we're not "happy" all the time?
I am at my personal best, when I remind myself of the phrase " 10,000 joys and 10,000 sorrows" Life is 10,000 joys and 10,000 sorrows. there will be both. That's it. There will be and there is nothing you can do about it. Realizing it's so, means that when the sorrows come, you see them for what they are, lessons. Important lessons to teach you to become who you're meant to.
Sorrows are necessary, to show us what the joys are. To help us experience the joys, we need the sorrows. When we see "sorrows" as lessons, they then become joys! "Thank you universe for this lesson, so I can be a better me!"
I challenge you to remember that in your day. Wake up and decide what kind of day you will have, and if it's a day with some "sorrows" see them for what they are, lessons to amplify your joys!
10,000 joys, 10,000 sorrows. Repeat when necessary.
Wednesday, September 22, 2010
Do we need to learn from EVERYONE?
Never linger too long with the ignorant, throw stones at their talk. Walk only with the lovers, the mirror of the soul gets rusty when dipped in muddy water. - Rumi
Saw this on a post this morning, and it resonates with me today.
However, I'm confused how/if that fits with my other teachings. Forgiveness, understanding, acceptance of others.
Do we look at each situation individually in our lives and decide then? Can both philosophies be correct?
Do we/can we walk away? Do we suck it up and forgive, understand, accept a person as is, even if that person doesn't fit our life?
I cannot be the only person with this conundrum. We all have circles of people in our lives, sometimes a person is in the circle because someone else brought them in. How do we accept someone who is so different from us? When almost every part of them is opposite to how we believe, how do you accept that in your circle?
Life is lessons each day, and "these" people do teach us things. Do we want these lessons in the safety and comfort of our homes, where we are supposed to be able to relax and let the world fall off our shoulders? Is it easier to learn this type of lesson that way? Is learning to deal with people you wouldn't choose to be with easier at home, then on the train or in line at supermarket?
We may think the lesson is to learn to deal with people. But what if the lesson is We can't get along with all people? What if the lesson is no matter how much everyone wants it, it might not happen? What if the lesson is how to be around people who irk you successfully? Am I/ you supposed to learn how to deal so we can teach our kids to deal with people they may have to "deal" with in life?
Do I want to teach my son to "put up" with someone who may be rude, challenging, difficult, opposite of his values and teachings? Or, do I want to teach him that there are many people in the world and we can choose which people we want to be with? Am I doing the right thing, if I teach him that he HAS to learn to deal with people that he doesn't want to be around? I'm just not sure.
There will be people around in life that we don't like. I would like, to simply remove myself from their presence. Is that the right thing to do? It can be done respectfully. "The energy you are putting out is too much for me, and/or is disregulating to me" OR " I've made a choice to not be around such anger/upset/etc. , so I'm getting up and leaving now"
(They can choose to be mad at me or insult me for doing so, but that is their choice. I'm in charge of my feelings. Getting up and leaving is taking care of myself.)
Is that not better, than staying and letting my soul get upset and sad? To placate a person, to put up with it, does that help anyone? No, I believe it does not. To let a person be rude or upsetting in our presence is called ENABLING. There are polite ways of letting people know that their behaviours are not something we will put up with in our lives.
We tell our children when their behaviour is unacceptable. At what age do we have to stop doing that? Does life dictate at a certain age, " YOUR Done" all growed up, you may now stay as you are, even if it offends the rest of us.
If your 20/30/40/50 or 60 does that mean you are now to old to be told your behaviour is disrespectful or rude or disregulating to everyone else's flow?
I've removed my son from school, because the people and the energies they put out were counterproductive to the upbringing I'm trying to instill in him. I don't want him to get by, I don't want him to settle. I want him to strive for awesome in everything he does.
If we choose to put up with things in our lives, where does that leave us?
Should we not strive to surround ourselves with love? Should we not strive to remove things that are counterproductive to our lives?
I believe we should.
People are everywhere, I'm not willing to move to the bush (again) with my son. I know we have to remain with everyone, some we'll want to spend time with and some we don't. I want to be open to all of them. Everyone has the potential to be great, to enhance and change our lives in great ways, I want to be open to anyone who has positive lessons for my son and I to learn and grow from.
I can and will choose to empower my life with loving, open, positive, excited people. My life, my energy, my outlook, my output of energy is dependant on me being true to myself. The more I stay true to myself, at all times, the more powerful I become. My energy, my love, my intuition all become more succinct with where I should be, I elevate when I'm with and around good energy. I want that, I owe it to myself and my son to be the best I can be. So I must.
I choose to no longer accept negativity and disrespect in my life. I will allow anyone the chance to bring good energy into our lives, to interact in purposeful, mutually satisfactory ways. I also am reserving the right to walk away from you if you don't. Anyone is welcome, if you bring goodness and light, love and respect, non judgmentalness and understanding. We don't have to always agree, but when we don't.. there must be calm discussion of ideas. I'm not interested in yelling it out, nor do I want to teach my son to do so.
I'm committed to teaching my son that while life does have some conflict, there is a reasonable solution. If there are unreasonable people, I am choosing from now on, to teach him to walk away.
Saw this on a post this morning, and it resonates with me today.
However, I'm confused how/if that fits with my other teachings. Forgiveness, understanding, acceptance of others.
Do we look at each situation individually in our lives and decide then? Can both philosophies be correct?
Do we/can we walk away? Do we suck it up and forgive, understand, accept a person as is, even if that person doesn't fit our life?
I cannot be the only person with this conundrum. We all have circles of people in our lives, sometimes a person is in the circle because someone else brought them in. How do we accept someone who is so different from us? When almost every part of them is opposite to how we believe, how do you accept that in your circle?
Life is lessons each day, and "these" people do teach us things. Do we want these lessons in the safety and comfort of our homes, where we are supposed to be able to relax and let the world fall off our shoulders? Is it easier to learn this type of lesson that way? Is learning to deal with people you wouldn't choose to be with easier at home, then on the train or in line at supermarket?
We may think the lesson is to learn to deal with people. But what if the lesson is We can't get along with all people? What if the lesson is no matter how much everyone wants it, it might not happen? What if the lesson is how to be around people who irk you successfully? Am I/ you supposed to learn how to deal so we can teach our kids to deal with people they may have to "deal" with in life?
Do I want to teach my son to "put up" with someone who may be rude, challenging, difficult, opposite of his values and teachings? Or, do I want to teach him that there are many people in the world and we can choose which people we want to be with? Am I doing the right thing, if I teach him that he HAS to learn to deal with people that he doesn't want to be around? I'm just not sure.
There will be people around in life that we don't like. I would like, to simply remove myself from their presence. Is that the right thing to do? It can be done respectfully. "The energy you are putting out is too much for me, and/or is disregulating to me" OR " I've made a choice to not be around such anger/upset/etc. , so I'm getting up and leaving now"
(They can choose to be mad at me or insult me for doing so, but that is their choice. I'm in charge of my feelings. Getting up and leaving is taking care of myself.)
Is that not better, than staying and letting my soul get upset and sad? To placate a person, to put up with it, does that help anyone? No, I believe it does not. To let a person be rude or upsetting in our presence is called ENABLING. There are polite ways of letting people know that their behaviours are not something we will put up with in our lives.
We tell our children when their behaviour is unacceptable. At what age do we have to stop doing that? Does life dictate at a certain age, " YOUR Done" all growed up, you may now stay as you are, even if it offends the rest of us.
If your 20/30/40/50 or 60 does that mean you are now to old to be told your behaviour is disrespectful or rude or disregulating to everyone else's flow?
I've removed my son from school, because the people and the energies they put out were counterproductive to the upbringing I'm trying to instill in him. I don't want him to get by, I don't want him to settle. I want him to strive for awesome in everything he does.
If we choose to put up with things in our lives, where does that leave us?
Should we not strive to surround ourselves with love? Should we not strive to remove things that are counterproductive to our lives?
I believe we should.
People are everywhere, I'm not willing to move to the bush (again) with my son. I know we have to remain with everyone, some we'll want to spend time with and some we don't. I want to be open to all of them. Everyone has the potential to be great, to enhance and change our lives in great ways, I want to be open to anyone who has positive lessons for my son and I to learn and grow from.
I can and will choose to empower my life with loving, open, positive, excited people. My life, my energy, my outlook, my output of energy is dependant on me being true to myself. The more I stay true to myself, at all times, the more powerful I become. My energy, my love, my intuition all become more succinct with where I should be, I elevate when I'm with and around good energy. I want that, I owe it to myself and my son to be the best I can be. So I must.
I choose to no longer accept negativity and disrespect in my life. I will allow anyone the chance to bring good energy into our lives, to interact in purposeful, mutually satisfactory ways. I also am reserving the right to walk away from you if you don't. Anyone is welcome, if you bring goodness and light, love and respect, non judgmentalness and understanding. We don't have to always agree, but when we don't.. there must be calm discussion of ideas. I'm not interested in yelling it out, nor do I want to teach my son to do so.
I'm committed to teaching my son that while life does have some conflict, there is a reasonable solution. If there are unreasonable people, I am choosing from now on, to teach him to walk away.
Sunday, September 19, 2010
Freedom of Choice
One of our most important freedoms is our freedom of choice. We cling to it, we shout it out whenever someone ventures an opinion on our choices. We are allowed in our country, to make our own choices, regardless if others like them or not.
As long as our choices are not harming others; but who judges that?
Let's pretend we are looking inside a sanitorium. The people inside, have been placed here, some against their will, some voluntarily checked in. They have been proclaimed ill by someone, and they are being "taken care of"
If a patient were to decide one day, to start picking up shit and eating it, We'd expect that someone in charge; someone watching out for this "sick" person would intervene. We'd expect, that someone would say, "This is not good for you, and whether you like it or not, I have to remove the shit from your hands,your pockets, wherever else you have stashed it.. so you won't eat it"
(and if everyone started eating shit.. wouldn't we kindly but firmly remove it all?)
We would all agree this is the right thing. Shit is not for eating. Someone unable to make intellingent, relevant, safe choices for themselves, should be helped. Most of us are compassionate and understanding enough to beleive this.
I'll drop the parable now, and say..
I feel our country is sick. Our people need help, and whether you like it or not, the shit you put in your mouth needs to be removed. And, as the whole country is not listening, not caring how sick their familes are getting, someone has to say "For the good of all, for the continuation of our species and the health of everyone we are removing the shit food from your hands, pockets and everywhere your stashing it"
http://www.naturalnews.com/029776_public_schools_Mexico.html
Mexico is banning shit food from schools! They are not going to allow their population to continue this way, individuals are not making the decisions they need to be healthy, so the decision is being made for them.
I understand it's a slippery slope, BUT Personal freedom will mean nothing, if everyone is dying and obese or toxically crazy. I absolutley know shit food can affect your thinking, your energy, your concentration.
(Remember the mayor in Cloudy with Chance of Meatballs? If we don't change this will be our life.. do you want him in charge of your country?)
Will we have to declare that only organic eaters can be in charge? It's ridiculous, but makes sense too. I do not beleive that a politican who eats the crap on our shelves, will be pushing for the world that I want and need to live in. If he's going to eat at fast food places, he's not going to be doing everything he can to push a new bill to ban junk food, like Mexico did.
I don't know what the answer is, except in my own home. I have to admit, I laugh to myself a lot about "them". Those who eat crap.. those whose genetics are now proving to fail.. those who hear but do nothing.. trans fat, GMO, HFCS, Mcdonalds loving semi humans. Your DNA doesn't resemble what it used to! It is proven that more people are becoming sterile, becoming ill, passing on more mutating genes.. those people are being removed by evolution. I'm sorry, but I laugh, cause it's amazing that no one seems to care. The reality is everywhere, this SHIT will kill you but you continue to go there, to eat it, to shove it in, passing on patterns to your kids.. teaching them how to be sick and to have a short life.
It's a horrible, scary laugh, it's full of fear, disgust and dissapointment..and it's better than crying for you.
As long as our choices are not harming others; but who judges that?
Let's pretend we are looking inside a sanitorium. The people inside, have been placed here, some against their will, some voluntarily checked in. They have been proclaimed ill by someone, and they are being "taken care of"
If a patient were to decide one day, to start picking up shit and eating it, We'd expect that someone in charge; someone watching out for this "sick" person would intervene. We'd expect, that someone would say, "This is not good for you, and whether you like it or not, I have to remove the shit from your hands,your pockets, wherever else you have stashed it.. so you won't eat it"
(and if everyone started eating shit.. wouldn't we kindly but firmly remove it all?)
We would all agree this is the right thing. Shit is not for eating. Someone unable to make intellingent, relevant, safe choices for themselves, should be helped. Most of us are compassionate and understanding enough to beleive this.
I'll drop the parable now, and say..
I feel our country is sick. Our people need help, and whether you like it or not, the shit you put in your mouth needs to be removed. And, as the whole country is not listening, not caring how sick their familes are getting, someone has to say "For the good of all, for the continuation of our species and the health of everyone we are removing the shit food from your hands, pockets and everywhere your stashing it"
http://www.naturalnews.com/029776_public_schools_Mexico.html
Mexico is banning shit food from schools! They are not going to allow their population to continue this way, individuals are not making the decisions they need to be healthy, so the decision is being made for them.
I understand it's a slippery slope, BUT Personal freedom will mean nothing, if everyone is dying and obese or toxically crazy. I absolutley know shit food can affect your thinking, your energy, your concentration.
(Remember the mayor in Cloudy with Chance of Meatballs? If we don't change this will be our life.. do you want him in charge of your country?)
Will we have to declare that only organic eaters can be in charge? It's ridiculous, but makes sense too. I do not beleive that a politican who eats the crap on our shelves, will be pushing for the world that I want and need to live in. If he's going to eat at fast food places, he's not going to be doing everything he can to push a new bill to ban junk food, like Mexico did.
I don't know what the answer is, except in my own home. I have to admit, I laugh to myself a lot about "them". Those who eat crap.. those whose genetics are now proving to fail.. those who hear but do nothing.. trans fat, GMO, HFCS, Mcdonalds loving semi humans. Your DNA doesn't resemble what it used to! It is proven that more people are becoming sterile, becoming ill, passing on more mutating genes.. those people are being removed by evolution. I'm sorry, but I laugh, cause it's amazing that no one seems to care. The reality is everywhere, this SHIT will kill you but you continue to go there, to eat it, to shove it in, passing on patterns to your kids.. teaching them how to be sick and to have a short life.
It's a horrible, scary laugh, it's full of fear, disgust and dissapointment..and it's better than crying for you.
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